MIND YOUR MANNERS
Manners are a social behavior and as stated here many times in family matters…behaviors are taught by us and learned by our kids. According to most of my clients, one of the most annoying kid bad manners behaviors is the bad manners of perpetual interruptions. You know what I’m talking about don’t you? You’re on the phone and your kids demand instant attention; you’re entertaining friends and your kids are constantly poking you until they get your attention; you’re concentrating on paying the bills when you are interrupted with ‘Mom, have you seen my (whatever)?
We’re treated as though what we are doing is not nearly as important as what our kids have to tell us. Dutifully, we often stop what we are doing to answer their call. Probably not with the best attitude and most of all annoyed with not knowing how to handle the interruption without hurting the child’s feelings. Keep in mind that kids, for the most part, are very self-centered. Their time is their time and our time is their time, too!
Hopefully, the following suggestions will help.
1. Avoid interrupting your children. Ask yourself if your question, request or concern can wait until there is a timely pause in what they are doing. (You will be teaching your children to respect your time and that manners matter).
2. Ask for permission before interrupting your children. Example: When is a good time for me to get your attention? (You will be teaching your children to ask permission before interrupting you, and that tugging at your clothing is bad manners.)
3.Before doing anything that requires uninterrupted time, explain to the children what you will be doing and for them to store up their questions, concerns or needs until you become available. Make sure you don’t abuse the uninterrupted time and make sure you follow through with your availability. (You will be teaching your children that patience and credibility is minding their manners). Hugs!
